Long distance relationship. Many people have tried it; few people have succeeded in making them work. But this does not mean that they are not worth the effort. When two people want to be together, they will do what they need to do to make a long distance relationship work.
Long distance relationships may be tough but they have their own surprises too. To keep your love alive and strong, here are some valuable tips to make your long distance relationship work:
Avoid excessive communication.
It is unwise to sticky and possessive overly. The two of you do not need to communicate 12 hours a day to maintain a relationship. Many couples think they need to do more to make up for the distance. This is not right. This will only make things worse. Soon you will get tired of "loving".
Remember: less is more. It is not about spamming—you will only exhaust yourself. This is actually teasing at the right moment and tugging at the right place.
Set some ground rules to manage your expectations.
You all need to know clearly what you expect of each other in this long-distance relationship. Make some ground rules so that none of you do things that will surprise the other.
For example, are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level? It's best to be honest about all these things.
Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.
Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings, however mundane some of the things may seem.
To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.
Talk dirty with each other.
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. Sexuality is like glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Sex is not only a physical need, but also an emotional need.
Keep the flames burning by sending teasing texts full of sexual cues and provocative descriptions to each other. Sexy puns also work.
Do similar things.
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news, etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same thing, you will have more common topics to talk about.
Even if you do not live together, it is good to create some common experiences.
Know each other’s schedules.
It is helpful to know when the other party is busy and when they are available, so that you can text or call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb him / her while he / she is in class or in a meeting. Understand small and big events what is happening or about to happen in each other's lives, such as mid-term college exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews, etc. This is especially important when you live in different time zones.
Snail-mail your gift.
Mail each other postcards and hand-written love letters. Send each other gifts across the globe from time to time. Flower deliveries on birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine’s Day. Shop online and surprise each other with cool T-shirts, sexy underwear and such.
Stay positive.
You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, the waiting can be painful and you can sometimes feel lonely but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven.
One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.
